Tonight on the bathtub I was washing Adam’s hair and I was telling him how he would fuss as a baby when I washed it. Then I laughed and told him I was silly washing it every night.
Out of nowhere he tells me ” when I was a baby I slipped-ed”. I was reassuring and ask him if he was little and he was.
I’ve long suspected that something bad happened, by accident or other, in a tub of water with him. He has a visceral reaction to warm water and showers and panics if he slips in the tub. Most kids are frightened but his a wild eyes, frenzied and screaming thing. His little statement confirmed the past experience.
Then I told him how it was a little boy and drown in the pool at an amusement park. It was at Lagoon in Utah and the lifeguard pulled me out and recessitated. To this day a cold splash on my chest brings up a reaction that’s is far more panicked than it should be. I know that’s why.